Selamat Hari Bapa/ Happy Fathers Day

Selamat Hat Bapa kepada semua Bapa Bapa.

Tiga hari lepas saya makan tengah hari bersama suami dan berapa rakan suami saya di Restoran Nasi Ulam di Kampung Kraftangan Di Kota Bharu. Secara berjenaka kawannya berkata semasa awal perkahwinan ibarat ada arus letrik dan magnet bila tangannya tersentuh isterinya, tapi sekarang isteri hanya tolaknya konon terlalu panas untuk berdekatan. Pemilik restoran yang dikenali sebagai Che Gu, kata dulu dia dipanggil sayang oleh isterinya, kemudian ayah, tapi sekarang dia dipanggil Ayah Tok pula, tak ada sayang atau darling lagi. Seolah rasa kasih sayang atau 'romance' telah diganti kerana dengan peranan keibu bapaan. Rupa rupa nya mereka masih memerlukan belaian manja si isteri, masih mahu berdampingan dengan pasangan walau pun sudah bergelar datuk. Mereka adalah lelaki biasa yang kalau dilihat secara rambang, sukar untuk kita membayangkan perasaan romantis mereka atau pun kita malahan anak anak mereka sukar membayangkan mereka mempunyai perasaan asmara dana. Jadi saya tersentuh dan berfikir, kita sebagai wanita yang mempunyai anak dewasa dan munkin seperti saya mempunyai cucu berasa segan malu dan malas untuk berromantik, tapi rupanya saya terlupa suami kita adalah kekasih kita yang satu masa dulu kita tak boleh berrenggang dan sekarang masih perlu di belai seperti dulu..

Jadi di hari untuk menghargai kaum Bapa saya menyaran agar semua isteri berusaha untuk mempastikan suami kita tahu yang mereka tetap disayangi, dihargai dan bahawa walau kita tidak akui jantung kita tetap berdegup laju bila kita bertentang mata,, perasaan kasih sayang tak pernah pudar tapi terus mendalam. Tapi untuk merasa saja tak mencukupi, kita perlu memberitahu suami kita sama ada dengan kata kata mesra atau dengan perlakuan kita yang membayangkan betapa kasihnya kita terhadap suami , paling tidak hantar sms cinta kepadanya. Insyaallah, suami pasti teruja dan rasa dikasihi, Sedikit pujian amat berguna sedikit kemesraan, sedikit gurau senda, saling sokongn menyokong , berkongsi suka duka, dan berkongsi malam bersama.

Jadi berilah hadiah Hari Bapa kepada Bapa anak anak kita dengan mengembalikan 'romance' ke kehidupann kita.


Happy Fathers Day to all the fathers out there.

A few days ago I had lunch with my husband and some of his friends at a restaurant in Kota Bharu, Restoran Nasi Ulam. His friend jokingly commented that there was once when ever he is nearly touching his wife, there will be electric sparks and magnetic pull to be even closer. Now many years on she will be more likely to push him away, the weather being too hot for close touch. Another friend , who is the owner of the restaurant, added that once he was darling and sweetheart, later he was referred to as daddy or papa, now he is grandpa , no more darling. Time is not kind to romance. Where there was romance and lovey dovey loving, now there are parenthood restrictions and responsibility and growing old and grandfatherly. However deep down, our men misses the old feelings, the touching and hugging, the  endearments that are rarely used now. Apparently they still want the caring and loving that they used to share, they still need the reassurance of love uttered regularly, they still need to be cuddled. These are ordinary men , growing on in years, not Romeos or lotharios, yet they still want to be wanted and loved openly. While we woman after a certain amount of growing up tend to shy away from open demonstration of love , our men seems to still yearn for romance. While we women prefer to be discreet, our men want  more obvious proof of our love. Most women like me after becoming a grandmother, seem to forget that our husband was once our lover, one that we want to be always closely together, and remember that men are really boys at heart.

So in honour of the day dedicated to Fathers we women should strive to ensure that our husbands, the father of our children, be aware of our love, our feelings for him, our respect for him and him alone.That although we are no longer youthful our heart still beat faster at the sight of him, and his gaze can still makes us melt, and our love had not faded but had increased over the years. We have to make him know by our words and deeds, tell him of our love, show him our love, or we can  sms our messages of love for him. Our husbands would be very thrilled to be felt loved and appreciated. We can share our love , our pain and joy , share the fun and amusement , support each other through the good and bad, be the best of friends and best of lovers.

So give the Fathers the best Fathers Day gift, the gift of yourself and bring back the romance to your live.

HAPPY FATHERS DAY TO MY BELOVED HUSBAND AND TO ALL FATHERS OUT THERE.